Raising Twins Is Hard: So When Does It Get Easier?

raising twins is hard: when does it get easier?When you stare at newborn twins, you notice that they are so cute and little.  

Then you stare at the mama raising twins…she is exhausted, slightly frazzled and preoccupied with her demanding schedule of motherly tasks.

Her hair is probably up in a messy bun, wearing leggings and some form of a v-neck…most likely without a bra!

Then you take a look at the toddler twin mom.  She survived the newborn phase and entered toddler-dom at lightning speed.  She is still in her leggings, but is now wearing sneakers and chasing her littles ALL. OVER. THE. PLACE.  

There are little ones running every which way, toys being chucked at heads, simultaneous meltdowns to manage and multiple diaper blowouts to clean.  

Raising twins is a beautiful reality…but a busy one, nonetheless.

Every experienced twin mom will tell you that it gets easier, maybe even promise you that it happens every 3 months or so.

But does it?

The simple answer, to be quite frank….NO

The more complicated answer?  Well, we wouldn’t necessarily say that it gets easier, we’d say that you’re now a mother, built with this amazing natural instinct, that will help you figure it all out.

You adapt. You find ways to manage and you overcome the challenges because you are strong!

It’s just like learning to ride a bike.  You start out with training wheels, probably a little battered and beaten, but with each passing day you improve until the day you take away the support and are off in the wind.  

When you are raising twins, the learning curve feels slightly steep.  You are tackling parenting “times” two with the same number of hands as everyone else.  You might even have additional kids in the family to raise other than your twins. That’s a lot of multitasking.

Once you feel like you have it all under control, you have to find a way to adapt to something new.  

You’ll long for the sleepy newborn stage when you’re keeping curious crawlers out of every cabinet in your kitchen.

The days of babbling toddlers will seem like a walk in the park when your twins are learning to communicate, beginning to assert themselves and challenge you.  

The sweet elementary years, when they still adore you, will seem like yesterday when you are anxiously waiting for your teenagers after a missed curfew!

You see…

Parenting ebbs and flows.  The saying goes, time flies and they grow up WAY too fast!  But, mamas, it’s not just a saying, it’s the damn truth.

Raising twins, or kids for that matter, may truly never get easier, but it is always a beautiful adventure! Your two little humans are every piece of wonderful that makes you so perfectly you.  You get to mold them, teach them how to be good people and how to appreciate the goodness in the world.  You are raising the future, and that is pretty amazing, regardless of how hard it may be.

Mama, you were made to do this.  From the moment you bring your twins home from the hospital to the day they go to college, you will take on incredible challenges.  With those challenges you  find great success and then move on to face the next. With each mountain you climb, you gain more confidence to tackle the next…that’s just what mothers do!

Just remember that you are part of the most amazing club in the world; you are not alone!  On the days when you aren’t sure you can quite hack it, know that that you have a village of moms right here with you. And on those days when you’re rocking this mom thing, we all want to celebrate that right alongside you!

As we like to say, “mommin’ ain’t easy”, which is exactly why you have this job!

So mamas let’s be a village for each other!

Share your successes, worries AND struggles with each other in the comments below!


    • Hi Shela! We are so happy hear that you felt encouraged. Although we write a lot about twins, we try to make our content applicable for all moms! The thing is we all need a village no matter how many children we have. We are always here for you mama! Thank you for stopping by!

    • Awww Mary you are so sweet! Really, we bow down to all moms! Its a hard job that we need to support each other through! Thank you for stopping by and sharing with us.

  • This is so true. Parenting ebbs and flows as does marriage and relationships and every other facet of life. We adapt and do our very, very best!

    • Exactly Patricia…all we can do is our very best! It is one tough job that we learn adapt to daily! Thanks for stopping by.

  • I do so feel with you. I only 1 toddler and sometimes I can´t wait for her to go bed. Not imagine what it means to have 2.

  • I am always amazed by moms with twins. Thank you for sharing this perspective. It’s really helpful for a mama without twins to get a better understanding of what they are feeling.

    • Hey Melissa,

      Thanks for stopping by! We are so glad you were able to gain some perspective.

    • Hi Janani…thank you so much for your kind words! It really does get better as they grow….each age has something unique that makes it so much fun, which really outweighs the challenges. We can’t wait to check out your post!

  • Parenting certainly does ebb and flow. I recently told my sister (who recently had her first baby) that the best piece of parenting advice I’ve ever received is that “The only constant in parenting young children is change.”

    • Rachel…..that is the best piece of advice we have ever heard! Thanks for sharing that with us!

  • Absolutely loved this, so empowering and touching.. Thank you!! As a mother of 9 month old twins I know exactly what you mean about adapting. It is amazing.. Looking back at the colicky first months,I was overwhelmed with self-doubt and panic. Now, each day feels like a fun,chaotic,meeeessy and crazy blessing that is full of love!! Especially since seeing how fast they really do grow up! I am ready and so looking forward to the times ahead, not because it will get easier but because I know that even at hardest of times,I will just find a way to manage.
    I salute every mama out there who is trying, we are amazing- with all our bad days,flaws and all,we are strong beyond words!♡

    • Thank you so much for sharing this! You are right, it is a crazy beautiful ride. We are all doing our best and that is all anyone should expect from us mamas!

  • So many twin mums told me it gets easier but they were lying! So far it’s just getting harder, I’d take newborn twins over toddlers any day!
    I’m currently working under the assumption the much promised easier stage arrives when they leave home.

    • Hahaha Louise! We are laughing with you on this one! Each stage has it challenges and we are sure that you are forever tired once you have babies! We are always here for you, never hesitate to reach out.

  • This was a great read! I have a 4 year old little boy as well as 7 month old twin boys. It is definitely a learning curve having 3 all at once and since they are at different life stages, that makes it even more interesting. I think one thing I’ve struggled with a lot is comparing where the twins are in their development to where my 4 year old was at their age. I constantly have to remind myself that they are twins, born 3 weeks early and that makes a big difference.
    Just had to leave a note saying that I appreciated the truth of this article and I look forward to more.
    Thank you!

    • Thank you Lauren for your sweet note. We are so happy that you appreciate our honesty and can relate to our perspective. Being a mama is a hard, but magical job. We all have our struggles, which is exactly why we need to be a village for each other. Thanks for being here!

  • This was much needed. I am currently expecting identical twins, with two other kids already at home. My oldest just turned three and my daughter will be 22 months when the twins come……..I am looking forward to many “I can do this” moments. ?

    • You got this mama! And congrats on all of your wonderful miracles. Always remember, we are here to be your village!

    • Yay you survived the first year Caitlin! What a milestone…congrats! Raising twins is a unique challenge, but we wouldn’t trade it for the world. We know EVERY twin mom would agree!

  • My twins are 20 months and most nights when I finally get them to bed I lay here searching the internet for words of encouragement. So thank you for helping me find strength to do it all again tomorrow.

    • Hi Cynthia…..you are the reason why we do this. Thank you for your kind words and support. We believe that it takes a village, even a supportive one that you may find online. We are grateful to have you on this journey with us. We will continue to write those words of encouragement!

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